My usual banter aside, I have a serious question for you all.
I had a nightmare last night and it's been REALLY bothering me all day. I tried forgetting about it by writing stories for the boys in the Sick thread, and my girlfriend even took me out to lunch to get my mind off it, but it's been stuck with me ever since it woke me up in the middle of the night.
We have some pretty smart fellas around here, so I wanted to get some ideas on what you guys may think the dream meant...
A bit of background - I haven't had a nightmare since I was a kid. It's been so long, in fact, that I can't even pinpoint to you exactly when the last one was.
That being said - I had a nightmare last night, and it went like this:
My grandparents used to live in a tiny little apartment here in Los Angeles, but my grandmother hasn't lived there in over ten years. The setting is that tiny apartment.
My entire extended family (all ten of us) are gathered at my grandparents' old apartment for dinner together. I refuse to participate and suggest that I'll stay in the other room and read a book or watch some television.
On my way into the bedroom, I walk past my cousin Carol and her husband (both of whom I haven't seen in over ten years). When I get back there, the house is suddenly larger and the old carpeting is now hardwood flooring - the ceilings are higher.
I decide that I haven't seen Carol in so long that I should join them, despite my initial desire for solitude. I haven't shaved in nearly two weeks, though - so I ask my mother to find me a razor, so I can shave and shower before joining everyone for dinner.
As she's looking for one, I get undressed and am only in a towel, when suddenly the room is once again small and cramped. The entire family starts walking into the room and in the middle of them is my grandfather.
My grandfather has been dead for nearly ten years.
I start screaming. Everybody stops moving at this point.
He's just standing there, a foot away from me, staring directly into my eyes. I realize that maybe it's my uncle (Carol's father, his son) who I also haven't seen in years that may have just gotten older in that time and just happens to look like him.
But I glance to my grandfather's left, and my uncle is standing right beside him. My grandfather just continues to stare at me, blinking.
I start screaming again, and all of a sudden I hear my parents giggling and poking at my shoulder - asking me why I'm crying.
Apparently I had fallen asleep waiting for the razor and was having a nightmare (in my dream). I try to wake up, but can't. I struggle to open my eyes, but it feels as if someone is holding me down by the shoulders.
Suddenly there's a woman inches away from my face staring into my eyes, as I'm struggling to wake up. I continue to scream as this woman is right in my face, holding me down and staring at me.
That's when I woke up, barely able to breathe. My girlfriend was next to me awake, staring at me. She said I was crying and screaming in my sleep, but she couldn't wake me up.
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Any ideas?
Full Version: I Need Help With A Nightmare...
When you have a dream and in that dream you are dreaming it means you only have 7 days to live.
My advise to you is that the Fruedian conscept of dreams having this big symbolic meaning is a myth. Don't sweat it, it's just a dream.
It's simple. You like little boys. Welcome to the club.
did you eat sushi for lunch yesterday too?
i didn't make much of it when it happended to me, but when I read your story I realized you were telling my story, which mean we had the same dream at the same time. I don't know what to make of that. I'm scared now, and shivering. help.
Obviously I can only go on what I know of you from your first story, but since I have quite a few dreams of my grandmothers house, and have gone through a bit of a rough stretch myself in the last two years, here goes...
The environment of your grandparents house is one of safety and comfort. When you were a kid, it was probably a fun, safe place for you to visit which you enjoyed. The fact the they don't live there anymore, and that your grandfather has passed away, tells me that you're searching for that safety and comfort, especially given what you've been through recently, and the new journey or rediscovery of yourself that you've had since. Family also fits into this, which is probably why your parents most specifically, and your extended family beyond, were there. Searching for comfort and safety in your present life took you back to your grandparents place, with your family there.
You wanting to be left alone during dinner suggests the appeal to your former lifestyle, which your family knew little of until the end. An aching to go back to the way things were, since it isn't pleasant at first coming out of it. Seeing your cousin and wanting to then take part in dinner may be just rekindling those memories of family when you were younger, thus bringing you back from your aching to run off.
All I could guess of the physically changing environment is confusion with the transformation going on in your life. I think everyone would agree that this happens often in dreams though, so it could be a lot of things.
Seeing your grandfather, and the screaming, probably is just your subconsciousness coming to grips with all of this, and it scares the shit out of you. I would guess that your grandfather, as most are, was kind of a rock for your family, an icon of trust, hard work, etc. The symbol of him could be you using that as a mirror to show yourself how upset you are with where you took yourself for awhile. The staredown is you staring yourself down, using him, and it is upsetting.
Your parents then poking at you laughing might be a self defense mechanism to not let yourself go over the edge, and that things really are going to be alright, as they were there for you when you needed them.
The woman at the end, I can't come up with anything specific, it could be another version of you staring yourself down. We look for a lot of validation from woman in different ways, but I can't place that one too well. It's definitely some form of you saying to yourself: Shit, or get off the pot, now is the time to really live your life and be all the glorious things you know you are and can be, and become.
I am sure you have a lot of the answers and interpretations dwelling inside you, and that you can let them out and piece them together.
Cheers.
The environment of your grandparents house is one of safety and comfort. When you were a kid, it was probably a fun, safe place for you to visit which you enjoyed. The fact the they don't live there anymore, and that your grandfather has passed away, tells me that you're searching for that safety and comfort, especially given what you've been through recently, and the new journey or rediscovery of yourself that you've had since. Family also fits into this, which is probably why your parents most specifically, and your extended family beyond, were there. Searching for comfort and safety in your present life took you back to your grandparents place, with your family there.
You wanting to be left alone during dinner suggests the appeal to your former lifestyle, which your family knew little of until the end. An aching to go back to the way things were, since it isn't pleasant at first coming out of it. Seeing your cousin and wanting to then take part in dinner may be just rekindling those memories of family when you were younger, thus bringing you back from your aching to run off.
All I could guess of the physically changing environment is confusion with the transformation going on in your life. I think everyone would agree that this happens often in dreams though, so it could be a lot of things.
Seeing your grandfather, and the screaming, probably is just your subconsciousness coming to grips with all of this, and it scares the shit out of you. I would guess that your grandfather, as most are, was kind of a rock for your family, an icon of trust, hard work, etc. The symbol of him could be you using that as a mirror to show yourself how upset you are with where you took yourself for awhile. The staredown is you staring yourself down, using him, and it is upsetting.
Your parents then poking at you laughing might be a self defense mechanism to not let yourself go over the edge, and that things really are going to be alright, as they were there for you when you needed them.
The woman at the end, I can't come up with anything specific, it could be another version of you staring yourself down. We look for a lot of validation from woman in different ways, but I can't place that one too well. It's definitely some form of you saying to yourself: Shit, or get off the pot, now is the time to really live your life and be all the glorious things you know you are and can be, and become.
I am sure you have a lot of the answers and interpretations dwelling inside you, and that you can let them out and piece them together.
Cheers.
It obviously means you are a homosexual. You were crying because you know that if you were to come out to your family it would result in a scene like the one in the dream.
This appears to be an "I don't want to fail my family" dream or an "I can't escape my family" dream. Or both. Or you're a closet homosexual. One of the three.
QUOTE (DoinSublime @ Monday, February 19th, 2007, 7:40 PM) 
Obviously I can only go on what I know of you from your first story, but since I have quite a few dreams of my grandmothers house, and have gone through a bit of a rough stretch myself in the last two years, here goes...
The environment of your grandparents house is one of safety and comfort. When you were a kid, it was probably a fun, safe place for you to visit which you enjoyed. The fact the they don't live there anymore, and that your grandfather has passed away, tells me that you're searching for that safety and comfort, especially given what you've been through recently, and the new journey or rediscovery of yourself that you've had since. Family also fits into this, which is probably why your parents most specifically, and your extended family beyond, were there. Searching for comfort and safety in your present life took you back to your grandparents place, with your family there.
You wanting to be left alone during dinner suggests the appeal to your former lifestyle, which your family knew little of until the end. An aching to go back to the way things were, since it isn't pleasant at first coming out of it. Seeing your cousin and wanting to then take part in dinner may be just rekindling those memories of family when you were younger, thus bringing you back from your aching to run off.
All I could guess of the physically changing environment is confusion with the transformation going on in your life. I think everyone would agree that this happens often in dreams though, so it could be a lot of things.
Seeing your grandfather, and the screaming, probably is just your subconsciousness coming to grips with all of this, and it scares the shit out of you. I would guess that your grandfather, as most are, was kind of a rock for your family, an icon of trust, hard work, etc. The symbol of him could be you using that as a mirror to show yourself how upset you are with where you took yourself for awhile. The staredown is you staring yourself down, using him, and it is upsetting.
Your parents then poking at you laughing might be a self defense mechanism to not let yourself go over the edge, and that things really are going to be alright, as they were there for you when you needed them.
The woman at the end, I can't come up with anything specific, it could be another version of you staring yourself down. We look for a lot of validation from woman in different ways, but I can't place that one too well. It's definitely some form of you saying to yourself: Shit, or get off the pot, now is the time to really live your life and be all the glorious things you know you are and can be, and become.
I am sure you have a lot of the answers and interpretations dwelling inside you, and that you can let them out and piece them together.
Cheers.
The environment of your grandparents house is one of safety and comfort. When you were a kid, it was probably a fun, safe place for you to visit which you enjoyed. The fact the they don't live there anymore, and that your grandfather has passed away, tells me that you're searching for that safety and comfort, especially given what you've been through recently, and the new journey or rediscovery of yourself that you've had since. Family also fits into this, which is probably why your parents most specifically, and your extended family beyond, were there. Searching for comfort and safety in your present life took you back to your grandparents place, with your family there.
You wanting to be left alone during dinner suggests the appeal to your former lifestyle, which your family knew little of until the end. An aching to go back to the way things were, since it isn't pleasant at first coming out of it. Seeing your cousin and wanting to then take part in dinner may be just rekindling those memories of family when you were younger, thus bringing you back from your aching to run off.
All I could guess of the physically changing environment is confusion with the transformation going on in your life. I think everyone would agree that this happens often in dreams though, so it could be a lot of things.
Seeing your grandfather, and the screaming, probably is just your subconsciousness coming to grips with all of this, and it scares the shit out of you. I would guess that your grandfather, as most are, was kind of a rock for your family, an icon of trust, hard work, etc. The symbol of him could be you using that as a mirror to show yourself how upset you are with where you took yourself for awhile. The staredown is you staring yourself down, using him, and it is upsetting.
Your parents then poking at you laughing might be a self defense mechanism to not let yourself go over the edge, and that things really are going to be alright, as they were there for you when you needed them.
The woman at the end, I can't come up with anything specific, it could be another version of you staring yourself down. We look for a lot of validation from woman in different ways, but I can't place that one too well. It's definitely some form of you saying to yourself: Shit, or get off the pot, now is the time to really live your life and be all the glorious things you know you are and can be, and become.
I am sure you have a lot of the answers and interpretations dwelling inside you, and that you can let them out and piece them together.
Cheers.
this guy is good
at least you got one serious response IQ
Dreams don't mean anything. Well, your dreams don't mean anything to me, that is, unless I know yor sign and spirit animal.
QUOTE (SuitedAces21 @ Monday, February 19th, 2007, 9:11 PM)
Why not try Tarot cards? Just as scientific.
QUOTE (SuitedAces21 @ Tuesday, February 20th, 2007, 12:11 AM)
Freud was the founder of learned behavior psychology, but it's come along way since him.
QUOTE (Dirtydutch @ Monday, February 19th, 2007, 9:14 PM)
Why not try Tarot cards? Just as scientific.
I think not.
Ask Freud in the dreams topic. He analysed my hockey with hulk hogan dream perfectly.
Well, the "it means you're gay" response was already taken, so...
There are two ways to look at dreams. One is just to ask yourself what it means to you. Does it relate to some recent event in you life? Even if the subject and the people were completely different, sometimes you just know it's about something specific. In that case, it's just your brain trying to wrap itself around a busy life.
If you seriosly can't relate it to anything recent, it just sounds like a general anxiety dream. For me, that usually means snakes in my dreams, although I seemed to have picked up a more personal anxiety symbol in my dreams lately. Anyway, if you wake up distressed, and it doesn't relate to anything, it just mean you are anxious over something in your life. Figure it out, fix it.
I think the whole notion of dreams having some special meaning other than what they mean to you personally at the moment is a bunch of hooey.
There are two ways to look at dreams. One is just to ask yourself what it means to you. Does it relate to some recent event in you life? Even if the subject and the people were completely different, sometimes you just know it's about something specific. In that case, it's just your brain trying to wrap itself around a busy life.
If you seriosly can't relate it to anything recent, it just sounds like a general anxiety dream. For me, that usually means snakes in my dreams, although I seemed to have picked up a more personal anxiety symbol in my dreams lately. Anyway, if you wake up distressed, and it doesn't relate to anything, it just mean you are anxious over something in your life. Figure it out, fix it.
I think the whole notion of dreams having some special meaning other than what they mean to you personally at the moment is a bunch of hooey.
WAS HE WEARING LOAFERS???
OOOOH that means you're super gay!
JK.... but that's effed up. I've had some really strange nightmares lately, but once I wake up they become abstract and I can't recall what happened. I just wake up in a sweat and shaking...
I also suffer from a mild case of insomnia, so maybe that has something to do w/ it.
GL finding the truth...
BTW, the comment about living for 7 more days while dreaming when in a dream.... lol... I guess I should have died a while ago.
OOOOH that means you're super gay!
JK.... but that's effed up. I've had some really strange nightmares lately, but once I wake up they become abstract and I can't recall what happened. I just wake up in a sweat and shaking...
I also suffer from a mild case of insomnia, so maybe that has something to do w/ it.
GL finding the truth...
BTW, the comment about living for 7 more days while dreaming when in a dream.... lol... I guess I should have died a while ago.
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