Posted 18 April 2007 - 05:26 PM
OP, you made a mistake. She put a lot of thought into that gift and was selfless in her actions. I almost guarantee that if you gave her even a good gift, not a great one, that she was most certainly planning on pleasuring you in all sorts of ways later that night.The reason she was upset was not only that the gift was not good (it definitely was not), but that you didn't put any real thought into it. Yes, you're reasoning is LOGICAL. She is a woman, women are not logical thinkers (not an insult, just a fact. Men are much more logical, women are just plain smarter most of the time.), so your reasoning is crap to her.She wanted a gift that showed that you care about the time you two have been together and that you care about HER. Not that you care about the hobby that you have that she has tried to enjoy (most likely she doesn't, she's just being a good girlfriend and trying to show an interest in something you love), and now you want to share YOUR hobby with her even more, but that you care about her and her hobbies.She said that you only think about yourself because at least in this instance, you did. The reasoning that you got it so you two could enjoy the game together was selfish. Most likely, she doesn't really care about poker. She isn't really interested in it, but she knows that you are so she does what she can. I'm sure she has other interests and hobbies.She was mad because you didn't put any thought into HER. You got her a gift that would make it easier for HER to adapt to your hobby. She doesn't want that, she wants something that says to her "I appreciate that you put up with me and think about me probably more than I think about you, and I love you." The other guys in this thread are saying that she should be happy with what you got her, and at least you didn't cheat on her, and all that ****. Not true. In a way, they're right, but they're right because what they're saying is that they don't want you to sell your soul to this girl and become just another whipped ***** of a boyfriend. If you give her an inch or two now, it will only snowball and pretty soon she has control of your whole life. This is true, believe me.It isn't too hard to get her a great gift that she cares about and will definitely make her day, but at the same time not metaphorically bend you over and tie you to the ****ing bed where you are her slave. You can be thoughtful and caring and amazing and still strong and in control.Having said that, don't try to trick her now by saying the real gift is on the way or that it was a joke, she's gonna see right through that no question. Don't make it worse. Suck it up and tell her why you did it. If you do understand truly why she got pissed (I already told you the reason), then tell her that. She'll at least appreciate that. Then, tell her you want to really show her how much you care and take her out to her favorite restaurant or watch her favorite movie or take her to a social event like a museum or gallery or whatever it is she's interested in. If she likes art, go to a gallery. If she's into flowers or something, go to a Botanical Gardens if you have one or something similar. You get what I'm saying. You can do this and not be signing your manhood over to her. Don't plead or beg or start trying to endlessly compliment her and turn into a *****, but at least show her you care (if you do). If you don't really care deep inside, then you shouldn't be with her in the first place and you might as well get her the dildo and tell her to **** herself, and then leave.If you care, this should be easy.
Renae, in response to my post on pleasing a woman...
QUOTE(renaedawn @ Wednesday, April 18th, 2007, 9:35 PM)
And that's why this man gets laid, gentlemen.
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